Friday, May 18, 2012

Never Underestimate the Power of the Seconds: Pt 2

Many times in life we find ourselves struggling and fighting to do everything right and/or perfect the first time. If it doesn't come out the way we planned, somehow we think we've failed. How often do we appreciate those failures, learn lessons from them, or even consider them just a "trial run"?!
The other day we talked about seconds in terms of time. Now let's talk about seconds in terms of order. Nobody likes to be second; first is usually the goal. Nobody really likes to do things a second time. Nobody wants to take the GRE a second time. Nobody wants to take that drivers test a second time. And surely nobody wants to get married a second time! First is always BETTER!!! Or so we think...
I wish to suggest that some very valuable lessons and experiences come when we are presented with second opportunities. We usually know more the second time because we've learned something from the first failed attempt. We know to put the oven on 350 degrees this time instead of 450 degrees in order to keep from burning our food. We know to stop behind the stop sign instead of in front it because stopping in front of it got us a ticket from the policeman last time. We even know to actually separate the whites from the colors so that our white clothes won't come out pink next time!
The point is this: don't underestimate the power of the "seconds". Those second opportunities enhance our knowledge bank, so to speak. They provide us with information that we may not have known before or just didn't pay much attention to. I'm not suggesting that we don't strive for excellence the first time; however, if our efforts fail, it's not the end of the world. Sometimes that second opportunity is just as important as the first. It's up to you to make the most of it by looking on the positive side and finding a lesson in the midst of your failure. Allow those second opportunities to make you better and not bitter.
How have you handled your "seconds" (as in opportunities)? Will you try to be more positive about them the next time?



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